Saturday, November 23, 2013


"Your opinions don't matter!"

I have heard that above line so many times in my life that now I am forced to think, that there must be someone in this world whose opinions don't matter at all, anytime, anywhere and in any situation. But let's just say that I am wrong and I think I am, because that line is used mostly in a heated argument keeping the subject-object in a relevant context. But the truth is that it's used more often than you'd think.  All over the internet when people troll each other sitting behind their screens thousands of miles away, they think that it's alright to tell how wrong the other person is by just telling him that his opinions don't matter just like his existence.

But that's just not limited to the internet world, the difference in opinions is evident everywhere and as appalling as it may sound for the one who is under the trial, I think it's necessary in every context. But how often do we try to overcome our ego and get in to the other person's head and understand what he really means? How often do we see the other side of the story? How often are we not biased towards our own thoughts? Well, if you ask these questions to yourself and observe your own words throughout the day, you'd know we fail miserably, in fact almost 90% of the times (the figures aren't from a researched data of course). Some of us are even as rigid as 100 percent of the times.

So, when we debate over how a particular genre of music is better than the other genres or how our favorite artist is better than the rest of the artists or when we persuade someone to taste a special dish against his will or when we think low of someone who is aloof, we simply forget that we are discarding the choices the other person is consciously and righteously making. It's in fact us, who need to stop judging and forcing our views on them. Because it's okay, if someone's taste buds prefer apple juice over martini or if someone prefers Chetan Bhagat over J.K Rowling. It's okay, if someone likes his own company and is not a fan of social gatherings. It's okay, if someone doesn't like to smile quite often but is happy the way he is. It's okay, if someone isn't good at what he does but has high aims of doing something else and it's also okay, if someone is gay, lesbian, transgender or bi-sexual.

...and It's okay if you commit a crime


Of course, you did not stop reading it. So now that you are still reading it, why don't you observe your own thoughts and about what you thought of the last line that said "It's okay to commit a crime", it's of course not okay to commit a crime but then a criminal would argue with that. But he would be horribly wrong. Right? Maybe, maybe not I don't know. But all I know is, I don't need a phD in criminal psychology to understand that one doesn't become a criminal over night and also no one is a born criminal unless of course we are talking about anthropological determinism.

Well my point is simple, it doesn't matter how strongly we claim about understanding someone's situation we can never totally understand it, because we aren't that person. So the best we can do is try. Try to understand where he is coming from and why did he do what he did. Maybe his opinions are wrong but if he thought of something in his head, he obviously did not fake it or sometimes he knew it's wrong still he did it. But why exactly so?

I felt the necessity to write this post because lately I have consciously observed how people can be very opinionated and full of ego and I realized how easy it is (In fact ironical to what I just wrote, I could be one of them sitting here and judging them through this post). However, the good side to it is that they come out as strong personalities but the downside to the same is that it doesn't work that way all the time in every situation. Whereas, if you try understanding everyone's situation your point of argument becomes weak but you know things exactly as they are.

So if I think you are right and she is right and he is right too, then I need to revise my statement that could be in alignment with his statement or her statement or your statement and then we can agree on it or disagree on it or agree to disagree on it but we will never be able to make everyone happy. But having tried to do so, would increase my chances to read you inside out and mind my tongue and actions the next time? well maybe!

Oh what do you know, that could just be my perspective and could be totally ironic to the theme of the whole post, so you could beg to differ. Because you know why?

Coz It's Okay !...